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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]for gods sakes, just go to a social event every once in a while. your time is not so precious that you can't do two or three one hour social events with your neighbors every year [/quote]

Actually, my time is that precious. [b]I am not wasting time I could spend with my kids. I work a lot. My time is for me and my family. [/b]That is it. I don’t do neighbor events. [/quote]

There are so many people living lifestyles like this now. My neighborhood is full of dual income workers who seemingly only hang out with their immediate family. It’s such an isolated way to live and everyone is missing out.

It’s such a stark difference from the lifestyle of my parents or grandparents where families socialized and kids ran around.

People seem so unhappy now and it makes sense. If you can’t even get together with a neighbor there is something very wrong. 
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I’m Gen X and I didn’t have that kind of lifestyle when I was a kid; my baby boomer parents did. Get with the times. I only see my own friends three times a year and we live locally. I don’t have time to see neighbors. I don’t give a crap about neighbors. [b]I have my own friends I can’t see and I want my weekends with my kids. I don’t have other time to waste on nonsense[/b].[/quote]

Is this a fun lifestyle? I can’t imagine that it is.  Only hanging out with your immediate family and seeing friends once in a blue moon sounds very isolating. Are you spending a lot of time on the internet? There’s so much anxiety and depression and I can’t imagine it’s not partly caused from a lifestyle with absolutely no sense of community. Is your spouse ok?  What about your kids?  I know a woman living like this and her spouse is miserable. [/quote]

Have you given any thought to the forces that might be causing so many people to live like this? Or do you just like to criticize?[/quote]

I’m genuinely curious what is driving someone to only hang out with their family, and see friends 3x a year. There seems to be a lot of this going on and my guess is it’s the internet. [/quote]

DP. This past weekend I went to a baseball game with immediate family, took kid to a long b'day party (not drop off), went to church, hosted a playdate at our house, cleaned the house and got groceries, prepped food for the week, and called my parents and an old friend of mine. I actually did see my own friends Sunday night, but that meant DH had to stay home so I could go out. We are lucky grandparents are out of town right now because we are overdue for a visit with them.
That all involved a lot of socializing, but not a lot of time for stuff I actually want to do. I didn't even get to all the chores I need to do, let alone sit down and watch a TV show with DH. There's definitely not time to wedge in neighbors. [/quote]

So…do you go to a baseball game and a non-drop off birthday party every weekend (is your kid 3 or younger?).  Because that’s 8+ hours of time that just opened.

Nobody is talking about hanging with the neighbors every weekend…just every now and then.

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We do something, yes. Maybe it's a museum instead of a game, or the pool instead of a party. We volunteer. We camp. I've got a bunch of gardening/weeding that needs attention but I never have time.

It's fine if you want to prioritize neighbors, but the idea that life is empty if you can't find time for neighbors is just silly. [/quote]

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