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[quote=Anonymous]This reminds me of a situation I had where a friend borrowed my sewing machine. My mom had given me the sewing machine, which was a really nice one, as a milestone birthday gift. I rarely used it because I was very busy with work and needed time and space to work on my sewing skills, which I didn't have at that point in my life.

I lent the machine to my friend happily, as she needed it and I had it to lend. But when it was time to give it back, she didn't want to. She started saying stuff like "but you never use it" and "it's such a shame for a nice sewing machine to just sit in a closet." It took me months to get it back and I had to convince her to return it, by explaining the machine was important to me as a gift from my mom, and that I saw the value in having it on hand even if I didn't use it often. I should not have had to provide reasons why I wanted my own property back, but she had become convinced that she "deserved" the machine and I did not.

I don't know why some people are like this. It's not just covetous, there's this arrogance in the behavior. They think that they understand the world better than you, and that they should be in charge of allocating certain resources because they know where they best belong. They lack self-awareness about the fact that their allocation of resources would always, of course, work to their benefit, with them always receiving the things they want (preferably as gifts, free of charge) and they are generally not overly concerned with what others want.

At the time my friend tried to take this sewing machine from me, she was living in a three-bedroom house and I was living in an apartment. I definitely wished I had a house at that time, and I worked from home and really wanted a home office, whereas she didn't need one. She did not volunteer to give me her house and take my apartment, even though you could argue it would have made more sense. Yet she felt I should give her my sewing machine because she thought she'd use it more.

This is just a form of narcissism.[/quote]

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