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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No gifts is just social posturing. It’s a way to say we are so rich that there is nothing you could give us that we would ever want or use. Our kids already have everything or only like gifts that are far above what you could give at a party. We mostly just roll our eyes and decline no gift parties. They are usually also the ones where parents are spending thousands on the party to show how rich they are. [/quote]

It’s a blessing to these families that you declined. Based on your take on why you think people insist on ‘no-gift’, you’re the one projecting your insecurities or jealousies.

We’re not rich and it would be apparent to anyone we are posers if we tried to pretend be. We insist on no gifts because we truly want our child’s friends to attend regardless of their families’ financial circumstances, their presence is the gift. Why is that so hard for people to comprehend?

If you absolutely have to provide a gift, then have your child give a small gift after the party. As nice as the gifts may be, my child will remember the party many years from now and not the gifts. [/quote]

It is posturing. Gifts have been part of celebrations for pretty much all of time. And poor people do gifts at their parties and celebrations. So yes the whole ‘no gifts’ is just social posturing and we avoid it. Our friends are down to earth so it isn’t an issue with them, it’s just snobbish school families with their no gift invites we avoid. We would much rather do a fun birthday party at a park with presents. [/quote]

Gifts have only not been part of celebrations in RECENT time. What does your friends who are down to earth have to do with giving gifts at birthday parties for kids? You’re the one posturing with your gift giving to show you are well off and can afford to give it. You could easily have a party at the park without gifts. [/quote]

It’s not posturing!  My house is small.  Also, some friends don’t have a lot of $ so I don’t want them to not come because they can’t bring a gift.  We want to have fun with friends not worry about what to bring.  I’m trying to make it easy for the guests!  Don’t worry about getting a gift - just come and have fun.[/quote]

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