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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is very sad, I’m so sorry. Are you sure this is just ADHD? It sounds like he’s doing all of the things and still cannot function. How long is he usually able to hold down a job? Is he working from home (if he’s in bed all day)?Does he have any insight or emotional intelligence? Social skills?

At this point I wouldn’t think of him as a child, but as a person with a disability you are caring for. Perhaps focus on his strengths, and the way he CAN contribute, and just let go of any other expectations. I would feel differently if he hadn’t tried everything, as you describe; it’s intractable.

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This. How would you feel if your spouse thought you were worthless and kept trying to "fix" you because of a problem you were born with that is disabling, life limiting and unfixable. People with ADHD suffer A LOT their lives are like treadmills of futility every single day.[/quote]

X100 I would be heartbroken if my DH stopped having sex with me and was trying to fix me. OP you are definitely making it worse. The more DH cheers me on the better. I have so much self-loathing I don’t need more, and it sounds like your DH does too. Hugs to you both. [/quote]

OP. I just can’t. If he loses his job, I now need to find a way to bring in at least another $80k a year. If I don’t make sure he’s fed, he gets sick. He spends every free moment in bed and on his phone.

I didn’t sign up for this. It’s too stressful. [/quote]

Divorce him. tell him he gets to see the kids a week in the summer and one overnight a week. Done. [/quote]

+1. This is what he’d like.

Couch it that he’s so busy and important that this will work best and he’ll have a blast (being Disney dad that week). [/quote]

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