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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mother died when I was 6 and she was 34.  My husband and I adopted our son when I was 48 and he was 51.  Yes, we will be old when he graduates high school.  We spent many years in fertility treatments. [b] Life doesn’t always work out the way we plan[/b].

FTR:  We are way more active with him than many of the parents of his friends.  Our son does the normal sports stuff.  We also spend much of the winter skiing with him.  We do other activities like ropes courses, zip lines.  We hike a lot as a family. My husband and I keep ourselves in shape and do the best we can to eat well.  We also keep up with our regular check ups.

[b]I could be hit by a bus tomorrow or I could live until 104 like my grandfather[/b]. [/quote]
So much this. People have such illusions of control. [/quote]

Yes some of us like to plan.  However, I'd argue waiting 2 more years to have a kid and focusing on saving $$$ during that time is not a bad plan, if you are under 30-32.  You won't regret paying down debt.

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The point is you can’t plan when you’re going to get sick or die. You have no control over that. Sure there are things you can do to increase your odds and plan/prepare but no one plans to get stage IV cancer in their 30s and die at age 36 leaving behind 2 young kids like just happened to my neighbor. No one plans to have infertility issues that cause them to not be able to have kids until older. No one plans to have to adopt a relatives’ young kids at age 50+ as happened to another neighbor. [/quote]

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