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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PP and a few thoughts just after visiting my ILs this weekend. [b]I earnestly tried to share some interesting stories, engage them in normal, idle chitchat. [/b]

My FIL asked me a follow up question but dropped in a personal criticism -  [b]after hearing I did a solo road trip, asked only if I ever get carsick on all of those winding roads. Like that’s your takeaway? [/b]

MIL asked me to describe said road trip/vacation in “just one word” [and then shut up] so she could talk about herself.

Neither even try to feign interest nor attempt to keep up their end of the conversation.

Literally leaving and MIL said to me, “we really need to do lunch.” I’ve turned over her request to DH - they can begin to have lunch dates, just the two of them.

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Anyone can sense when someone is "trying hard" and it comes across as needy and yes, contemptful, as if you are just waiting with baited breath to see if they are "gosh just going to do right this time!" Also, the FIL didn't criticize you. Obviously you wanted a different response but that is not how humanity works, we can orchestrate what other people say. If this is your expectation everyone will disappoint you, and you are waiting around for everyone to be just a little bit better, to try harder, to not be avoidant--I assume this is your thought process.[/quote]

PP and although I disagree I would
love to know how you’d handle this and would you be excited to start a lunch date tradition with someone who is generally disinterested in your life?[/quote]

I am lost if you disagree why are you asking advice on how to handle, there is a contradiction here. [/quote]

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