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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Fresh off of Easter and realizing my parents ask virtually zero questions about our (me, DH and DC’s) lives. We were together for 5 hours and there wasn’t a single question. We are potentially considering some big life changes (moving, job changes, etc) but they would have no clue. And before you say, “just tell them” I can’t. My mom in particular just talks at everyone about herself the entire time. It’s impossible to get a word in edge-wise. I feel like this is so bizarre and getting worse over time.

It’s mind boggling to me to not be interested in your child’s life. Anyone else experiencing this?[/quote]

My mother is like this. The only time she expresses an interest is when she gets embarrassed when her friends ask about us and she knows absolutely nothing about us. Then she blames us and gets angry we don't share. She doesn't listen the rare time we do. With age she has gotten even more self-involved (entitled and rude too, but that's another post). Phone conversations became a running monologue and you can't get a word in edgewise. Her moods swing more too (screened for dementia already).

It helped me to read the book that everyone here suggests called something like....Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents. I no longer expect an actual relationship. I just try to be relational. I meet her where she is-limited. I have boundaries. I don't expect her to show any interest in us or to be emotional support. The rare time she tries to show interest or be emotionally supportive it turns into her needing me to soothe her anxiety so it just makes things worse and more exhausting. I keep conversations superficial and light. She's emotionally volatile and self-centered and goes through phases where she becomes consumed with feeling we aren't doing enough for her. Then she becomes enraged and stops talking to us. Those breaks are so welcome and peaceful. We have a tremendous amount of stress (illness, government job instability, etc) and during those breaks I don't have the burden of being her emotional pacifier or wondering when the next fit is coming.[/quote]

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