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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She’s never had an O even by herself?

That sucks. I would encourage her to try a V on her own. I also like erotic fiction/romance (I don’t do p-rn names me uncomfortable).

Maybe if she wants she can profess to having you and her try the V together. Does she not like oral? [/quote]

Any suggestions on the best way to gauge possible comfort level with erotic books, a vibrator, or something similar?

She is self-conscious in that area, so my offer for oral, with limited exceptions, is not accepted.

If nothing else, I want her to realize that there is nothing wrong with spicing it up. [/quote]
This is really sad. Oral sex is the easiest way for a woman to achieve orgasm but she's uncomfortable with it, which isn't unusual either. She sounds very repressed and self-concious. I would try things like giving her a body massage without it leading to sex, touching her and assuring her of her beauty and how much you love her just so she can open up to the idea of her having physical pleasure for its own sake. I would emphasize just being close and physical without oral or PIV or any goal in mind. After a while she may be more amenable to getting oral aex just for the pleasure of it. [/quote]

What are your thoughts on surprising her with something new and/or spontaneous. For example, a vibrator, erotic movie, etc. Maybe even a different type of relationship. If nothing else, I would be interested in her reaction. However, I don’t want risk major damage to the relationship. [/quote]
PP here. I am someone who has never used toys. I am open to trying new things but that has never appealed to me so if she is a little shy, I wouldn't try that first but you could but maybe a few other things at first. My husband and I did watch erotic movies when we were first together and I liked that but we watched one porno and I thought it was gross and boring. So be careful in selection but it coukd be part of judt opening up about sex and thst sex is desirable and okay. I would just try being more physical all the time so she feels pleasure with touching. Hugs, kisses, touching that feels good without worrying about orgasm for either of you. Tell her how beautiful she is and maybe how sexy too and how you like her femininity and even reticence, that it makes you hot. I suggest a slow kind of seduction over time with patience. I would try to lead it to oral sex for her and she may not get there at first. But I think that's the sweet spot. She sounds self-concious and may have insecurities about her body. You reasure her that you love her body. If she feels women shouldn't have pleasure, or this kind of talk embarrasses her, gently work on that idea too. She may want you to lead and help her. I hope it works out for you both..[/quote]

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