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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you’re the favorite, you have a lot of unearned privilege.  Sit with that [/quote]

Snort.  My mom was not really great to any of us- three kids before 30, short temper, yelled a lot.  Not physically abusive beyond occasional spanking but I was always wary of setting her off.  I went away to college, my sister didn't take on debt like I did and went to the local commuter school while living at home.  Which was wise but it meant living with my parents longer, and apparently once I was gone my mom would talk about me in glowing terms all the time.  Absence makes the heart grow fonder?  But I don't feel like I got anything out of being the favorite besides a resentful sister, and I still don't like to be around my mom for extened periods of time because she can be so toxic and negative.[/quote]

Someone is triggered because of unearned privilege [/quote]

I think "being triggered" comes from emotional abuse/neglect.  Certainly your lack of empathy and understanding will fall on deaf ears. The sister, although had different circumstances and experiences, also was abused.  Both sisters need to recognize they grew up in an abusive household - both experienced trauma of different kinds.[/quote]

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