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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wonder why women stay with men who don’t do anything around the house or are absent fathers/partners. Who are alcoholics. Who are controlling with money. Who golf every weekend. Who are MAGA. Who are slovenly. 
I guess we’re all different. [/quote]

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[b]My spouse had a midlife affair- but is a fantastic spouse[/b], father and has always done so much around the house. Cleans, takes cares of things, coached the kids, etc. We were madly in love when we got married and had our kids. So compatible. He fk’d up in a midlife depression and cheated. What he did - confessed, his own therapy, remorse, no blame on me after is a large part why I stayed and continued to invest in my family.  I have always worked (3 million in my own retirement account, etc). I could leave at anytime. I’m glad I didn’t give up when we both were at the bottom of the U on the happiness curve because life is really, really good and we are tight with our college age kids who love spending time together as one big family. My kids were tweens at the time and it would have been awful for them- to go from a happy family and not know why out of the blue we tore it up. The family milestones, graduations, holidays are very dear.

If my spouse was a Dk, a bad husband, continued to cheat, didn’t want to be here, if I wasn’t happy, etc, I would have divorced without hesitation. I give one chance with cheating- though before it happened I would have said instant divorce—if it was a habitual thing, I’d be gone in a heartbeat. I love what we have built together as a team.

People give a lot of thought and go through difficult times, but ultimately choose what is best for them. Period. You will never know why. You don’t live their life. [/quote]

You need to seek therapy. [/quote]

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