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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you don't understand the wider context, you cannot understand why it's the case that it's more common for men to abuse women in a relationship than vice versa. You obviously don't understand the cultural, nor legal context. In this thread we're talking about killing the sparkle, in essence having a woman's life revolve around others (kids, husband, aging parents). What exactly are you trying to convey here being the woman's fault as you say? Wanting to get away from this? Wanting to live her own life? Pray tell. [/quote]

That's not true. Men's are victims of abuse more often in relationships than women are. They just don't report it or talk to anyone about it[/quote]

This is not the case and has been shown over and over (both popular press and scientific literature as in statistically proven). Sure, both sexes can verbally abuse each other, but husbands can walk away any time. They're more financially secure. They're also more physically strong. In cases of physical and financial abuse it's mostly men. Most women who stay in abusive relationships do it because they don't have any other choice. Abuse towards women is very common during pregnancy (1 in 6 women) and when children are small, in other words, when women are at their most vulnerable. It also takes a while to recover physically after birth, and many have depression. It's difficult or impossible to relocate with an infant (especially if the infant also has medical issues) or start/go back to work, when there's no childcare. The laws are also such that you have to remain in the same state where the child is born, hence if you relocated from your extended family, you're out of luck. Then imagine you stay at home with kids since this is what you and your husband agreed upon. And then when the kids are a bit older, your husband discards you, because there's no use for you any longer. In 99% of cases it's the women who have a break in their career (impacts earnings and retirement, shown plenty in scientific literature). You literally have no idea what you're talking about. Oh poor men, they suffer in silence, because the wife told him to take the trash out!

As far as the OP goes, sure she'll have to manage herself and if she's divorced as some say, she has to find her grounding again. This is not easy. [/quote]

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