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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Been married almost 20-years. Before kids, my wife, even before kids, had a low drive and little interest in having meaningful intimacy. Foreplay, exploring (nothing crazy, lingerie, or spicing it hasn’t been part of intimacy, even though bring it up. she acknowledges solo occasionally (no vibrator) and has never had an “o.”

Are suggestions on how to make intimacy more than sleeping together? Should I even continue effort? [/quote]
I have one genuine suggestion, but it seems intense.  If it's gotten to where she has a low or no sex drive then there is one thing you can do (because face it, being a nice guy or asking for sex just won't work).  I'll get a lot of grief about this one, but here it goes.  Bare with with....Be a bit of an ass hole and very matter of factly and somewhat emotionless.  Tell her flat out that you want sex whether she does or not.  If she isn't going to do it because she wants to, then she needs to do it because you need it.  Tell her, if she is going to take the desire out of it, then you just want to use her body to get off.  And if she isn't willing, then you'll go elsewhere to get it.  Tell her this isn't negotiable and that this is one of the few things that you demand.  And when your giving it to her, don't be romantic, don't even kiss her.  Just use her like a tool to get off.  ....so here is why.  She will start to feel insecure and start wanting you to do it because of romantic reasons.  You can always start doing that way after she comes to her senses.  And if she doesn't care enough about you to give it up for you...then find somebody else.  Remember how when you were single women loved ass holes.  Start being one.[/quote]

There is something wrong with you.[/quote]

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