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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, if your plan is to go to work full time and still take care of baby and house and food all 100%, I think your friends were right, too. But being a happy doormat isn’t a bad life, if that’s what you want.[/quote]

I’m not going back to work FT. I was asked if I worked or something like that and I said I did. I’ve worked FT until I went on maternity leave. I will be working from home PT.

My husband is amazing. He works really hard and that’s why I was able to take an extended maternity leave and now work PT. He encourages me to take time for myself like going to get my hair done, get a message, go on trip with friends. I don’t worry about taking out the trash or any outside work or repairs because he handles it all.

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What is your childcare plan when you are working from home part time?

I was able to take four months of maternity leave because I saved my leave and planned ahead, not because I was dependent on a man to pay for it. I'm happily married (15 years) and my husband is my equal partner in all ways so I'm not jealous of your set up (it actually sounds dangerous because you're going to be financially dependent on this guy).

Your post just sounds very 1950s to me. If that works for you, then that's fine. I just hope you're protected in all ways should he decide he no longer wants to be married to you. [/quote]

OP here. I am more traditional and I don’t mind it. I like my career but I’ve always wanted to be a wife and a mother first.

I will be going back to work 20 hours a week. We have lots of family help.

My husband won’t F me over but I’m good. I came into the marriage with a large savings account that I worked for since I was a teen. I’ve invested some and kept the other in a savings account. He told me to keep it for myself. [b]We used joint funds from me working and his savings to buy our home. [/b]My name is on everything. I fully trust my husband.

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Ok, so why did you say on page 3 "He bought me the house I want"?

Maybe the way you talk about your husband is not matching reality and that's irritating to the women you were spending time with. You seem to want to play the cute little wife cooking the hot dinner and fluffing his ego by saying he bought you a house when actually you bought it together. Of course it annoys people that you're saying your husband is so great when actually this isn't that impressive. It doesn't sound like he actually treats you especially well. He sounds pretty normal to me. [/quote]

DP. I’m not sure I’ve ever the “he bought me a house language,” especially if she worked for the down payment.[/quote]

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