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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He's fortunate to be playing a sport he loves. Clearly, let him do it. Are you seriously considering pressuring him to drop a sport he enjoys to do something he doesn't?[/quote]

Do you understand higher level teen basketball? It's too late. He's not good enough to play past this little local league.[/quote]

Why does the level matter? Are you looking for a scholarship? Just let him play with his friends.[/quote]

None of the kids in either sport are going pro.  Just let him play the one he enjoys.[/quote]

He can swim at the very least all through high school at a high level. He will not be able to play organized basketball after he ages out of this local youth league.[/quote]

[b]Who cares if you can swim at a high level if you don't enjoy it[/b] (and the two are kind of opposite...if the kid does it just to please his parents, he won't be high level anymore).

There are actually plenty of HS rec basketball leagues.  It is the easiest sport to continue playing at an organized level...albeit at a recreational level.

OP doesn't really indicate the HS.  The DMV has some of the best HS teams in the country...and some that are piss-poor (Walls, Gaithersburg, St. Anselms, etc.).[/quote]

OP's son will likely care when he gets to high school and has no sport. Also, people don't swim because it's "fun" the way they play basketball or soccer because it's fun. That's why there are pickup up basketball/soccer leagues. Nobody says to their friend, "hey, let's go swim 8,000 yards for fun!" There are plenty of reasons people keep swimming -- the goal setting, the sense of accomplishment, the incredible physical challenge, the amazing friends that swimmers make, the excitement at big swim meets, etc. Some people might feel a sense of peace or well-being as a result of swim practice, but it's not "fun." It's similar to working out/going to the gym--adults generally don't do that because it's "fun." People who know nothing about swimming and don't understand the sport or what motivates swimmers should not be giving advice on this board.[/quote]

You can tell yourself anything you want, tiger swim mom, but your D1 swimmers kids resent you to their core. 
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Former high level D1 swimmer here who also did a couple teams sports until 10th grade. PP is exactly right about swimming not being “fun” in the same way as team sports. Swimmers are kind of a different breed — you have a lot of time with your own thoughts and there aren’t the same kinds of breaks that are built in to team practices. But this is why it’s even more important that the kid loves swimming. It’s hard enough even when you do love it. I remember crying my way through hard practices sometimes.

I doubt OP’s kid will regret “not having a sport in high school” if they are burned out on swimming. That’s not how kids think. I don’t know anyone who quit swimming in middle or high school who went back to it in a serious way. Many stayed doing summer league only but not club. It makes no sense to force a kid to keep doing it if they are hating it and enjoy a different sport. One of the best former swimmers on our neighborhood summer team (still has records) apparently quit swimming in early teen years to play football or something. An athletic kid can usually pick up other things with hard work. You can’t exert this level of control on a kid once they’ve hit middle school. They know what’s going on and will really resent you forcing a sport on them. [/quote]

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