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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m a well married, liberal, master’s degree’d, early 40s white woman…I see a few things in my cousins who are in their late 20s and early 30s…a desire to find a love, get married, have kids…but…also that the men they are dating are not at all interested in these things and if they are….they are MAGA affiliated. I come from a large family with cousins spread out between red and blue states… the problem really seems to me to be that men have not kept pace on the goals of a society teaching women they can expect support to achieve and accomplish all of their goals the same way men are. I don’t blame them for not wanting to except less. I will also say my peers are divorcing or questioning having gotten married based on similar disappointments. Men need therapy. Younger women aren’t interested in being the maiden/whore/therapist they have been for the last however many years.[/quote]

+1. I personally think it will be important for women who want a partner to be savvy assessors of personality etc in men and be assertive. There are even fewer “good” men than in earlier years and they will be picked up quickly. Of course “good” now means something different than it did in past generations - equal partner etc. But, being married to my best friend and love is the greatest joy of my life. It’s worth it if it goes well. [/quote]

I agree with the above.  But . . . I also think women may have to make choices.  I'm in my 50s. My husband's career has taken more of the focus in our family life than I would have imagined in college and in my 20s.  But I wouldn't trade my marriage and family life for a single life.  Yes, I did more housework than he did, yes, i took some years out of the workforce.  But I got to raise 2 wonderful children and build a partnership I can count on to navigate life's challenges with.  My marriage isn't perfect but my life is great.  I often think about young women . . . "do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy"?   The degree every young woman is willing to compromise will differ.  But, I personally, think it is still largely unrealistic to think you can "have it all" and young people fail to recognize that compromise is required. [/quote]

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