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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had twins at 45 (my husband was 42).

My kids are teenagers now, and so far there have been no negatives about being older, other than my concern about how long (and healthily) I'll live to be around for them. I have been able to keep up just fine physically (adventure travel, roller coasters, hiking national parks...). I have also been able to afford a fulltime nanny for the first 12 years of their lives, any activity they want to try out, amazing vacation travel, and the kind of flexibility with my work schedule that only comes later in a career.

So far, so good.

I just need a few more years of robust health to get them fully launched having had a mother with no limitations or health concerns. At this point that seems likely.

And then they're adults and it's a question of when/how I'll decline. Based on statistics, family history, and my current excellent health for my age, I should have at least a decade of reasonably good health. That puts my kids at late twenties, full adults. THey will have been launched with no college debt and tons of highly engaged parenting.

Based on direct family history, I'm likely to have 20 years before I experience significant physical decline. That puts my kids in their mid/late 30s.

And if I'm lucky that my overall healthier lifestyle and healthcare gets me farther than my parents, then I could be around until my kids are in their 40's and maybe I even get to enjoy being a grandparent. I'm certainly working towards that goal.

If I don't make it that long then my kids will inherit sufficient funds to support them in their first home, building a family, true financial security, etc...

Could I feel confident about any of that when I was 45 w/ newborns? No. Am I glad I had them? Absolutely. Do I wish life had turned out in a way that let me have them a few years earlier - sometimes. Though I wouldn't have been positioned financially the way I was - so there are always tradeoffs.

Parenting has huge challenges - but almost none of them have come as a result of my age. Rather, the wealth and stability that comes with age (and a strong marriage, that I didn't have until my 40's) has been hugely beneficial in parenting.

Don't judge your friends - just support them, and their kids. [/quote]

Did you have issues getting pregnant at 45 for the first time? Did you have high FSH or other different levels? Is there anyone you saw for your issues?[/quote]

I got pregnant at 44, after 3 years of trying, and only through using donor eggs.[/quote]

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