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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have seen a generational shift in this attitude. It seems like having a long term SAH princess wife was a huge goal and status symbol in the older generations, but Gen X and especially Millennial men resent it. Not saying every man under about 50 feels this way, but significantly more do than Boomers and up. [/quote]

The other thing is that younger women have changed. They are realising it is rewarding to have a successful career. Also older women who have made it professionally often have a lot more free time but are also paid a lot. So are able to take on things like going on boards and networking with other successful women. The SAHMs that haven’t worked for 30 years by this point can’t access this world[/quote]

It's the opposite.  Younger women realized that majority of women trying to have fulfilling successful careers and functioning family/households fail and are miserable and don't want this.  They see their mothers unhappy when they failed to "lean in" or got ousted after giving birth and wanting some work-life balance or had to resort to middling jobs just to pay the bills.  They saw them tired and irritable, juggling messy homes and sleep training their infants and offloading their toddlers to the uneducated barely English speaking foreign nannies, or schlepping them to the dodgy daycares barely awake on their way to a meaningless middling job. For every woman who is a C level exec, a partner or an owner of a successful company there are many thousands whose lives reflect what I said above.  It's the truth.  I am no SAHM,  I am an equal earner with my DH having contributed half of our NW. [/quote]

Yes, all of this is true!

AND for every high earning man there are 100 more in middling careers just trying to provide a life and income.  This equation goes both ways.  Women entering the workforce caused inflation.  It means that 2 middling earners are now needed for a middle class lifestyle, whereas in the 60s only one was needed.  And to make matters worse high earning women marry high earning men, so the disparity is even bigger.  High earning men are somewhat ambivalent to the earning power of their spouse, studies show.  Although younger men are starting to care more.

I am also an equal earner with my husband.[/quote]

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