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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know a ton of people that went to Towson, Salisbury,  JMU, ODU etc who are super successful, so I wasn’t delusional enough to believe that this really mattered.[/quote]

This. I was bummed DS needed to go instate (which limited choices) due to finances, but also realize that in the vast majority of cases it didn't matter. My co-worker who went to Ivy grad and undergrad and I have the same job with same salaries (I went to mid level state colleges.) ALSO I knew my kid with ADHD wouldn't have been successful at a top tier school....[/quote]

Yes, you don't want a pressure cooker environment for most ADHD kids.  You want a place with profs that actually teach well, that have accommodations in place (so you can get your notes from a note taker, etc), and a collaborative place.  The goal is to get your kid to thrive.  My ADHD kid hated school by end of HS, but knew college was the key to a better career (the kid had no interest in HVAC/Electrical/Plumbing/etc).  So they got accepted everywhere they applied and landed at a T100 school with excellent merit.  Changed majors along the way but graduated in 4 years, with an excellent job at a great company and is doing well 3 years later.  That's the goal---for them to graduate and get a job.  My kid loves their job and is doing very well.  That is because of how hard they work, and it shows in their job.

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