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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A man who was either homeless and/or has substance abuse issues/mental illness was walking towards me last night on a semi isolated street, in that unsteady halting way. I was trying to walk around him with my head bent down to stay out of his way when he snarled "stop staring at me, you f****ing chink".

I kept walking ahead. For a split second I thought he would turn around and start following me. There were other people ahead of me so I just started walking faster to catch up to them and then I was in an area where there were many more people.

I've been called "chink" by all sorts of people since I was a kid in elementary school. "Go back to your country". [My country? I was born here.]

So it surprises me how much it still stings when someone calls me a chink. It's even hard to write that. [b]That a man who was probably homeless thinks I'm less than him because of my skin color. It shouldn't bother me, after all this time!  Right?![/b]

So I'm just trying to get this out of my system. Weirdly I feel ashamed and couldn't even tell anyone IRL that this happened.

Thanks for listening, strangers on an anonymous messaging board.[/quote]

Take a self-defense class.

Walk with confidence.

Make eye contact so you can identify the person if he becomes a perp in a line up.

You don't need to keep your head down or look away.

However, I don't care if I hurt some man's feelings as a woman walking in a parking garage, a street, an elevator, any public place where I might be attacked or assaulted by someone bigger than I am. And I'm not Asian.

I'm Italian American. I've had men catcalling me my entire life. The last time it happened to me, the man was a construction worker, and I was shocked he was doing it to me, cause I'm 55.

I had a man shout at me once when I was feeling especially great about myself. I was wearing a new pair of shades, and I had my hair fixed. I was in a grocery story parking lot. The man shouted, "Hollywood's a long way from here, baby!"

Decades later, that stuck with me. In one instance, just because I had a spring in my step and was feeling good about myself that day, some homeless looking drunken bum, thought it was okay to "humble" me and take me down a notch or two.

It's not really about what they call you. They can call me "dago" or "wop" (used to mean without papers) or "baby" or "sweetie" and it still makes me angry.

I especially hated it when men, strange men, would tell me to "smile!" or say, "you're prettier when you smile!" I'm not put on God's green earth for your gaze, jerk. [/quote]

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