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Yes majority of us will help "loving parents".  But most will not help a parent who will not learn from their bad actions.  The mom had a good vehicle, paid off and sold it to buy one they cannot afford.  If they dont' want help, you don't go into debt/stress your marriage for them.  
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Which is . . . . what I said. There is a spectrum of help that doesn't require you to go into debt or stress your marriage. But MANY of you are saying do nothing. And many of you are dripping with contempt for the people that raised you. It's disgusting.[/quote]

DP. You don't seem to understand, probably due to never having to deal with anything like this. With parents like OP's it's not the first time they have required "help". They have lifelong issues making sound decisions. No matter what they are advised, they do whatever they want anyway, not once, not twice, but for 40-50 years! Then when the inevitable happens, they are destitute and "I need you to solve this". Sorry, I don't know about you, but most adult kids with families don't have enough money to upkeep both their parents, in-laws and their own families all at the same time.  It's not about contempt or hate. There simply aren't enough resources to do this. There is a reason why we should save for retirement when we earn money. People are saying to do nothing because they all have given free advice to their parents for years and it has gone nowhere. There is realistically nothing else to do. As I say, if you think there is, you actually don't have experience with these types of people. [/quote]

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It's just like "tough love" with your own kids.  If they are stupid with money, you don't constantly bail them out for dumb decisions.  You let them live with their choices.  You try to teach them, but if they won't learn, the best path is to "learn the hard way"[/quote]

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