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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Our parents were either not capable, not interested or not alive to ever watch our kids. Both of our siblings live across country so “getting away” was not a easy option..

When kids were 3 and 5 our nanny watched them for an overnight.

When they were 11 and 13 my sibling stayed for 3 nights, he barely did anything (forgot meds, classes etc) but the kids were alive. Still we decided that wasn’t going to work going forward.

This year, our kids (now 13 and 15) will go to sleep away camp and we will take a week somewhere.

We do family trips and when the kids were younger some all inclusive switch kids clubs. [b]This is a choice we made to be parents so we dealt with it but [/b]I was at times envious of people who had active and involved grandparents (the ones I had who were capable are selfish and uninterested and the one who loved my kids was not capable and now has severe dementia and we care for her).

If I’m able to be an active grandparent I will be. And if I’m not I’ll try to help financially so that my kids can hire help if needed. 
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There is no reason to add the "but": you didn't consult any of your relatives on the timing of your becoming a parent, on how many kids to have, on the values you communicate to your kids, so any contempt, even miniscule toward relatives is unwarranted. [/quote]

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