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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We don't commingle any accounts and never will.

We each own a home we bought before we were married.

Wills haven't changed (all to my kids) but I did put him as the beneficiary to one of my savings. [/quote]

What a shitty thing to have to settle this much for companionship.

I will regret my first marriage as long as I live, it leads to garbage like this and what is the point.

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What are you even going on about?  The PP is very smart to not blend.  If both parties have means and kids there's no reason they can't preserve their own estates for their children.

I'm the same, my assets are in a trust.  My (second) husband has his own assets.  I have no interest in them.  And he has no interest in mine.  We are both self sufficient but we also don't nickle and dime things like meals out.  We split who pays but no one is keeping score.  It works for us.  [/quote]

Seems sad that your life can never be larger than what you do by yourself. What's the point of partnership when it's not a real partner.[/quote]

Finances are just one part of a marriage.  Also the cause of lots of stress.  Many might have a better partnership without worrying about shared finances.[/quote]

Exactly and if you’re not worried about money then why add hassle. [/quote]

Agree. Plus, some adult kids (or even grandkids) may want or need financial help well into their adulthood. A couple may not agree on that issue and IMO it is often the cause of second marriage failures.

Larlo's 35-year-old daughter wants money every month to pay for her rent on a deluxe apartment rather than find one she can afford. Larla's 30-year-old son enjoys expensive sports cars and she wants to buy him a brand new one for his birthday. A parent may want to provide a very healthy check as a wedding gift or a down-payment on a house. Or an adult child goes through a divorce and needs money for an attorney and relocation expenses.

Many scenarios where a parent may want to support their own adult child. Nothing at all wrong with that - as long as it's their own money, not money contributed by the spouse who has zero responsibility or (often) no relationship with those adult kids.

The problem in the marriage comes when "joint" funds are drawn down, often against the agreement/input of the other spouse. Many scenarios where a parent may want to provide money to an adult kid and the spouse may not agree.  [/quote]

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