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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.[/quote]

I'm 47 years old divorced man with 2 kids and I have been surprised by my successes on the dating market as well. However I am still single and I need to figure out why I keep attracting women who want to be married and have children. I have no desire to remarry and have more kids so I'm choosing to remain single.[/quote]

I am a 47-year-old divorced woman with two kids and I’m not dating you because when I date, I date men who are in their early 30s who don’t have children. I’m not blending any families so I have no interest in a man who is my age who has kids when I can date much younger without those complications. I won’t ever remarry so there’s really no reason to date anybody my age. I constantly have about four men who are constantly wanting attention who are early 30s. no reason to go higher. (I don’t sleep with multiple people at once— or even at all right now—but what I’m saying is that I have no lack of interest of younger men without kids, which is just easier to deal with.[/quote]

I guess congrats.  For the life of me, why would early 30s men want to date (where you aren't sleeping with them) someone that is 47 with children?  Are you paying for everything?  [/quote]

I am attractive and look a lot younger. I have not paid for anything. Why? They want to sleep with me. My kids are not a factor. no man ever has met my kids. When I do date, it’s on free time without kids. I have slept with men this age in the past (one at a time and usually for about a usually for about a year to 18 months) and even slightly younger—and I’m the one who cuts it off—not them. [/quote]

No man is pursuing women two decades older unless they can't do better. Sorry, but you are just an easy piece of a$$ to them. Or you are paying for everything.[/quote]

I look better than most women 15 years younger. I pay for nothing. Not an easy piece of …I can compete with younger women. That is all. [/quote]

Live it up now. Menopause is coming.[/quote].

I am aware. I did not realize my attractiveness level in my 20s. It is sad it took until 40 to notice. I am not ever remarrying but it is nice that men of all ages think I am attractive. I know it won’t last but I am glad I started noticing before I am really old. Always been a workaholic and my mom and grandma were stunningly beautiful so growing up it was always like “no one can be as beautiful as them.” I am not am quite movie-star beautiful (my grandma looked like Ava Gardner with lighter hair), but I am close to that level, it just took me until late in life to realize it. It is validating. I did not know when I was younger, so I will enjoy it for the short time it will continue to last.[/quote]

Eeek.  Or work on valuing the things about you that have nothing to do with your physical beauty?[/quote]

I had two books published by an actual publisher before the time I was 30–when you actually had to have talent to get a book deal. It’s pretty sad that I didn’t realize I was beautiful until I was 40. I’m allowed to have that realization. I never doubted that I was smart and accomplished, and assuming that someone’s focusing on beauty when they are older, does not mean that they don’t have anything else going for them. [/quote]

Men care less about women's achievements. You could have had an illustrious career by 30 that won't impress most men. They will rank your beauty and physical attributes before your career/money.[/quote]

Someone commented: "Eeek.  Or work on valuing the things about you that have nothing to do with your physical beauty," which is what I was responding to. No kidding men only care about what I look like. That is why they are predators. I have more interest than I want due to my looks and I am no longer interested in a relationship as a result. [/quote]

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