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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This thread is bizarre.  An awful lot of women projecting an entire personality type on the OP's PTA group.

When the only thing the OP complained about is that they don't want to be friends with her.

So if a grown woman doesn't want to be friends with everyone who wants to be friends with her, she's a shallow, cutthroat shark (and every other insult thrown out on this thread)?  [/quote]

OP didn’t say that they didn’t want to be friends with her, only that they were catty.

I also don’t really understand why you wouldn’t be friends with everyone who wants to be friends with you.  I get that how often you see someone is limited by time and personality fit and other obligations, and there might be some people you only see in group settings. But, as a grown adult, if you know that someone is looking for friends, why not be friends?  What’s up with shutting certain people out?  [/quote]

DP.

Some people are takers. They take, take and take without ever offering. It's tiresome.

I had a friend who used me as a therapist. She would whine and complain about everyone to me, but then go and be this bubbly, outgoing, happy person to her other friends whom she called "acquaintances".  The last straw was when my dad died, and she not only did not show up but never offered to help with anything. She even called me right before the funeral to vent about some nonsense. We text every now and then, but  I don't enjoy spending time with her, so I don't. I don't consider her a friend anymore.

If I notice that someone is mostly whiny and not reciprocating kindness in some way, I don't bother.[/quote]
That’s unfortunate. I have to learned to never ever open up to any of these parents. I discuss my kids and any superficial minor issues they may have, nothing too heavy though. People don’t really care, esp other parents. They aren’t my friends and have no intention of ever knowing me and becoming my friend. I realized this from the beginning. If I ever need to confide in someone, I will have to get a therapist because I never want to be seen as whiny or a burden to someone.[/quote]

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