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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I haven’t read all the responses.  But if are helping because they are disabled or have a medical issue the the one thing.  But to pay rent and buy a car?  I’d be upset to.

This is how families break up.  Why didn’t you buy all your kids cars?  Was it a brand new car or some clunker?

We were in high school when my parents paid for my sister to go to a very expense camp because she wanted to go there.  I wanted a flute - same price.  They just valued camp more - or her - things weee never the same after that.

You have to be equal. [/quote]

Parents have not been treating children  equally from the beginning of time. Just think of some of the advantages the oldest has v. The youngest.[b] Not just more time but all the extra activities the oldest gets involved i  that the youngest doesn't.[/b][/quote]
You must not come from a very large financially challenged family. It works the opposite way. Youngest ones won the lottery. [/quote]

I am the youngest.  My sister got ivy schools she picked where I got cheaper state and other schools my parents picked.  She got med school.  I got one year of state grad school.  She got housing, food and other help through residency. I was expected to move back home and do most of the cooking, cleaning and help till I got married.  They fired the maid to pay for her stuff.  I was told to stay local to care for my parents and they lied for years saying I was the pot and executor.  My parents divorced.  Mom helped my sister steal my dad’s estate from me and refused to let me help or participate in the funeral.  She tried to dump the estate stuff partially on me which is how I know.  She refused to handle it.  I had to get an attorney to file and start the paperwork.  They got mad at me for having enough and withdrawing from the attorney I paid for when I realized she was going to take it all and there is no accountability in the courts.  They were furious and haven’t spoken to me since except to make threats.   They think I’m broke since I don’t work due to serious health issues and we live way under our means.  It’s kinda funny they don’t realize we don’t need their money.  It’s sad they destroyed our family over money neither of us needs.  Their excuse to hire it is I will divorce and come to them and they have to control it now to help me later.  If I have never asked for a dime and they’ve never so much as gotten me a gift or my kids, why would I ask for anything?

Think about how you treat people.  When my mom passes my sibling only has me as she’s not married. And, after the years of abuse from her, not happening. [/quote]

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