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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You did a bad job at gray rocking her and now you have to start from scratch. Sorry.[/quote]

This. Pushy, gossipy jerks looove drama. She will rewrite whatever was said in her head. She’s love bombing you now. When your guard goes down her claws will come back out. [/quote]

I am the poster who said you didn’t win.  This is exactly why.  This interaction, which makes you look bad on its face, will be distorted and expanded and spread all over kingdom come, and the worst part now is there will be a kernel of truth.  Ugh.[/quote]

Dp here.  Both dh and I held our tongues and tried everything to smooth our relationship with our ils. When we backed off and stopped talking to them, they continued to make up lies about both of us and our children. It was embarrassing for them because the people they said things to knew us and knew things weren't true and could not be true. The ils knew so little about us, their lies were obvious to people who did know us.

Unlike you, pp, I think if we had spoken up more directly from the start we might have had a chance of getting them to understand there were boundaries they should not cross. [/quote]

You’d be wrong.  You can think that all you want, but these people don’t ever respect boundaries and aren’t going to start because you were rude to them.[/quote]

Np — Can you please explain how OP was “rude” when she answered MIL’s question? Asked and answered. [/quote]

If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.  We teach toddlers this.

You don’t have to answer people just because they pose a rude question to you. [/quote]

NP. Just because you don't get the answer you like doesn't make it "rude" or not "nice". As a PP noted, don't ask a question unless you're prepared for a true response.[/quote]

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