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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you want your kids to hate each other, give them different amounts of money. [/quote]

Don't think this will happen to DH, but I can tell he has some feelings about it. His sister/BiL spent their 20s working 9 months of the year and traveling for 3 on their earnings from the 9 months. His early career wasn't necessarily conventional, but he did set aside savings regardless of what he was doing. SiL then started a family, etc. She freelanced in order to remain at home - great gig, but no benefits or savings plan. His parents then helped with those grandkids' college.

We now have a very HHI/asset accumulation. Because of this, his sister started making noises 6-ish years ago about why she should receive more money, just the liquid assets, etc. What's transpired, however, is that his parents possibly haven't set aside enough money for this next phase of moving into a retirement community where one parent is pretty much going like gangbusters and the other has dementia. DH is now fretting that he will be solo in supporting their parents and that the sister will expect she receive all of what is left in the estate (e.g., a couple of paintings by recognized early 20th c artists).

Basically he is torn between wanting to be understanding with sibling yet wish she would recognize that - just like he did - made a set of decisions that still have consequences. [/quote]

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