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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I got married at 23 and had my first at 26, in law school.  People acted like I was a teen mom.  It was ridiculous.  I’ve been married for 17 years and I’m really happy with my choices.  I have health problems now that could have kept me from having kids in my 30s.  So I’m really glad I got that done in my 20s and I would recommend for my children to do the same.

At the same time, I was fairly mature at 23 and knew what I wanted.  I knew DH was a good partner.[/quote]

I wish I could have had children younger. I don't see what the big deal is. Think of how young you'll be when the nest empties! [/quote]

I’ll be 46 and an empty nester MUAHAHAHA.

My 20s were hard but I’m happy DH was with me.  He is the one who put me through law school.  We had marriage, law school, babies overlapping and it was super hard but by my mid 30s life was so pleasant.  [b]Now nearing 40 my kids are older and I am really enjoying my life. [/b] I didn’t travel or date a lot but DH and I have had some fun trips while my parents stay with the kids.[/quote]

It always stands out to me that young parents seem thrilled to be empty nesters and “enjoying my life.” There is this mindset that you’re happy the phase of having kids is over with.

Did you not enjoy having kids?  
Perhaps you had to give up so much in your 20s and you feel like your time is finally your own?  I can imagine you had virtually no time to yourself and had to struggle through lawschool if you had young babies at the same time.

I can’t imagine viewing having a family the way you do.  I loved my time in my 20s and it’s now great to have a young family in my 40s. [/quote]

Because we are tired, lol. And want time to be selfish and devote to self care. I’m 42 with a 16, 14, and 12 yo. My BIL and SIL are my age and are actively trying to pregnant (and unfortunately have had several miscarriages this year). I do hope they succeed for their sakes but every time it comes up, DH and I look at each other like  :shock: lol. I canNOT imagine wanting a baby or toddler or even a very young child again at this age.

I love that I sleep through the night without question. I love that I haven’t been involved in my kids’ bathroom habits in a decade. I love that they do their own homework and study needing without much from us help. I love that I don’t have to be involved in their social lives anymore aside from driving them places and dropping them off (don’t even have to go in anymore! Love it!). I love that they get their own ski gear on and carry their own equipment now. I love that we can do fun, active things on vacation like ski, snorkel, zip line, jet ski, hang glide, etc. I love the fact that we can have interesting conversations now. I love the fact that last night, DD was filling me in on the “hot tea” about who is dating who in her brothers’ friend groups. It was funny and fun.

I don’t want to breastfeed another baby. I don’t want to have to wake up at night, even for minor things like teething, earaches, illness, nightmares. I don’t want to have to sleep train or potty train another kid or teach one to read.

I did my time in the tre pinches and now I get to enjoy my kids as people. [/quote]

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