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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP consider breaking down your list into "maintenance" vs "aesthetics". All of the "I don't care" posters are dumping your concerns into the throw pillow category. Those posters may not care about pillows, but they sure as hell care if a toilet flushes. [b]You can't live in a SFH with someone whose position is to "not care" about home maintenance. [/b]There's a place for those folks; it's called an apartment.

You'll have to adjust on the aesthetics (this often about money, btw, and what's considered necessary vs not). But HVAC, door knobs, plumbing, and electrical etc. are not optional items he gets to dump on you. I feel your disappointment re: someone who doesn't share your excitement. My H didn't either, and I had to get over that. But "getting over it" didn't mean accepting that maintenance was my job.

(Side note: I find a man who can't pick up a flat head screwdriver to tighten a loose fixture deeply unsexy. Yeah I said it. I told my H I am happy to hire out electrical. But if I'm calling a handyman every time I have a loose doorknob I'll happily be single. And yes, I cook and we have great sex before anyone asks).[/quote]

Yes you can, you just hire someone to fix it. I'm a wife and I have zero interest in doing anything plumbing or electrical related. Could I learn how to do it? Probably, I'm not an idiot. Do I want to? Absolutely not. So if my husband wouldn't fix it, we'd hire someone. I don't expect him to care about it any more than I do just because he's a man.

Also, door knobs don't belong in the same category as HVAC, plumbing, and electrical.[/quote]

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