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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I don’t have time to read through this thread but came to say (1) OP you should find a Black parents forum to post. All of these non Black people weighing in?? I get that you’re trying to navigate the question but um. Here? On DCUM?
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(2) It is not the culture and is absolutely her white friend group. My DD who is Black American (as are we) faced similar challenges with Black kids at her high school (American and non-American) because of her white friend group. She was openly asked why she was friends with “them” or why she sat with “them” in the cafeteria.  It could also be that the very reason your kid has the white friend group is because she hasn’t been around a lot of Black kids and so doesn’t necc vibe the same way.

It is a fact that Black and White friendships groups have different vibes in the DC area. My DD who has managed to straddle the fence just by being herself and persistently being friends with the Black kids because that’s who she is has complained to me about the white kids that if she hears one more convo about T Swift or Fórmula 1 racers she will scream. On the other side, she still has to ask  Black kids what some slang words mean when they are used and has to endure comments like “oh you’re really Black” when she expresses an affinity for or familiarity with something that is seen as culturally “black”.

In my experience, African and other Black immigrants often look down on Black Americans and—I’ve witnessed this—warn their kids about not becoming like the Black American kids. That’s just a fact. So they perpetuate the “otherness” and can have superiority complexes. It doesn’t anger me because doesn’t everyone sh*t on Black Americans?  And I understand these immigrants aren’t familiar with our history or the circumstances of why we are where we are as a people. [/quote]

Why post on some Black forum? This is an open secret. So silly.[/quote]

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