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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ve known of her for a long time. Honestly, have had a crush on her from afar for about 10 years but she never looked my way until now. She’s funny, smart, gorgeous, kind, has a great job, etc. Im pretty laid back but I told her I have I can’t stand it when a woman is naively friendly. She asked what constitutes as being as naively friendly because sometimes women have to do it to avoid being shot. I said if you are consciously sensing danger to the point you are worried about being shot then you aren’t being naively friendly. Naively friendly would be the opposite of that. Not sensing intentions or danger.

Then she said, I guess I should’ve specified that because we’re always on alert it can be unconscious, with or without present danger because we’ve been conditioned. Now flirting or not having boundaries with someone you have a platonic or business relationship with? That’s an absolute no…that’s why I asked what you view as friendly.

So clearly she’s a flirt, so that’s just ruined how I view her now. Sucks because I really liked her. [/quote]

You have issues, buddy.

Oh, you've got serious issues.

You’ve spent 10 years pining over this flawless woman from afar, and now that you finally have her, you're making up ridiculous issues to self-sabotage the whole thing?  Great job!

Let me clue you in on something: you’ve set her up to fail, big time. 
No matter what answer she gave, there was no winning here.  You made sure of that.

The reality? 
You’re so wildly insecure that you're pushing her away because you don't think you're good enough for her, and rather than be happy with the girl you've always wanted, you’d rather blow it all up than face the possibility of her leaving you. 
Brilliant strategy.  Bravo!

Here’s a prediction for you, though: 
If you keep up with this nonsense, you’ll wreck everything, and it will be much, much sooner rather than later, that you’ll be drowning in regret.

Trust me, you’ll hate yourself for this. 
For the rest of your life, you’ll be haunted by the fact that you let your insecurities drive the logical, rational bus right off the cliff.

And every single day, you’ll remember her —that smart, hilarious, beautiful, kind woman with an amazing career that you pined for, for a decade—and you'll never forgive yourself for being such a moron.

Meanwhile, some other guy will DEFINITELY come along, see all those incredible traits about her, and unlike you, he’s not going to be dumb enough to let her go over some made-up, "deal-breaking" nonsense.
He'll snatch her right up and never let her go, because he's not stupid like you.

Honestly, good for her. 
She deserves better than this insecure mess that you've created (btw, you're the furthest thing from laid back or confident, because someone who was truly laid back & confident, would never, ever go LOOKING to create issues with their dream girl, duh!).

I promise you, it won’t be long before you realize how much of a mistake you’ve made. But by then? She’ll be long gone... and you’ll have no one to blame but yourself.

She'll forever be the one who got away.

Someone really needs to slap you upside your little head. 😐

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