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[quote=Anonymous]I have a lot on my plate these days with work, one child with SN, difficult elderly parent so I gave up trying to make sure I do etiquette just right. I try to keep my kids getting the amount of social stuff they need to be content. They don't need or want me to host sleepovers and I don't enjoy that. My daughter doesn't like them that much, but one of her friends really loves them and is persistent and she doesn't want to let her friend down. If I thought the mom resented it at all, I would hope she have her daughter stop inviting and my daughter would be relieved too.

I had easier phases in life were I probably hosted hangouts more than others, but it was about what my kids enjoyed and wanted not about keeping score. In fact, in one case there was a difficult situation at home (e.g. divorcing, but angry husband won't move out and doesn't work) where I was glad the mom only wanted me to host because I would not want my kid there.

I would not take the suggestion someone gave to expect them to take your kid overnight so you can attend a wedding or something. It's rude if they never offered. Sure you could ask in an emergency, but that is imposing. Only host as much as you and your kid enjoy, not to keep a tally. Think about the potential consequence of them just having their kid decline invites so you don't feel owed something. How would your child feel if everyone said "no" if they didn't plan to reciprocate.[/quote]

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