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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]They don’t want parents with jobs.

You can be upset about the disrespect and exclusion and your feelings will be valid.

You can take it as a glorious get out of jail free card. You do not have to participate not because you were unwilling but— sigh— because you aren’t the target volunteer demographic.  Do not volunteer, do not Venmo, and only go to the activities that actually appeal to you (or your kid) and don’t guilt free.

And if you’re ever — ever!— approached or guilted about it you just smile and say how glad you are that people have so much free time to donate to the (name the activity)[/quote]

This. I feel entirely absolved of the guilt I once felt to be helpful. School volunteering is a SAHM show,[b] and I scroll past anything the PTA has to say.[/b][/quote]

I find this astounding. Imagine women dismissing other women because you think you are above it all.  Too bad if you scroll pass your kids may miss some activities because you are too busy being superior.    Funny, if this was coming from a man we would say that's typical man dismissing a woman.  But, it is really sad when women can't support other women.  We are volunteering for the benefit of all the children!  Even yours.  A little appreication would be nice.[/quote]

These are women intentionally excluding other women, though. No one needs to listen to them.

If your PTA doesn’t flex the schedule so working parents can participate, you are “dismissing” those women’s contributions. Why should they then care about yours? [/quote]

Those women don’t show up anyway. If they can’t make an after school drop off meeting I’m sure they’ll find reasons 6, 7, 8pm don’t work either. Priorities. If people want to meet to plan frivolous events, let them. Is anyone really dying to get in on that? If they send around a signup genius to work an event, donate time then, or just write a check, [b]or just do nothing.[/b] It doesn’t really matter in the end.[/quote]

This was the advice I gave— if people don’t value you, you don’t have to value them. The poster who I was responding to found that “astounding” and wanted gratitude for her role despite deliberately excluding others. [/quote]

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