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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For a lot of people (especially perimenopausal/menopausal women) it is.  It’s because rather than being where their body is most comfortable and they can eat normally - which is probably a size 8-14 - they will do WHATEVER IT TAKES to stay as skinny as they were in college or whatever.[/quote]

OP. That's a really good point. At 47, I guess this is where I might be. Size 8 feels shameful to me, weirdly. I want my 6s to be comfortable. Accepting that I'm past the size 4 stage where I was in my 20s...at my age, I think too skinny doesn't look good.[/quote]

OMG. I feel exactly the same way. Covid took me from my size 4-6 self to my current size 8 self. (I'm in my 50s) and yes, being a size 8 seems shameful and that my body shouldn't change. [/quote]

This feels like classic disordered thinking. I hope you spend as much time improving your mind as your dress size (seriously).[/quote]

I am not saying this thinking is healthy but I also think these snarky responses are pretty lacking in empathy. People understand their feelings of shame over their clothing size are not good. But it's so common. And I don't really even think it's about feeling shame over specific numbers. It's about the change and feeling like your weight is spiraling. Someone who has been a size 0 without thinking about it their entire life but who finds themselves fighting to fit into a size 6 will feel this way. So will someone who has alwaybe comfortably been a size 8 if they suddenly have to start buying size 12. It's not the size itself -- bodies come in different shapes and sizes and what will look healthy and proportional on one body can look really overweight on another body.

For me it's the transition from "well yeah my body is filling out a bit as I get older" and accepting that versus feeling like my weight is just on an upward trajectory and won't stop if I don't do something. It's not the number itself. It's watching the numbers tick up at middle age and feeling like I have to actively work just to get them to hold steady at a size that is already one or two sizes bigger than what was "normal" for me even at age 40.[/quote]

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