Reply to I’m breadwinner, dh asked me to help with side hustle

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "I’m breadwinner, dh asked me to help with side hustle "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can't believe OP is b****ing about her husband not earning enough when he outearned her for years and years! The hypocrisy! [/quote]

It's not about income, it's about dumping all the childcare and household work on her. You don't treat your working spouse like that.[/quote]
So if he made $500k/year this would still be an issue?

No. Because it [i]is[/i] about the income. [/quote]

Because if your spouse makes $500K a year while you are the primary parent/adult AND working you can

1 - afford to outsource/pay for convenience

2 - not be terrified that you will lose your job and the family will take a significant financial hit 
[b]
So yes - it’s about the money when that’s the only thing one partner has ever “brought to the table”.  [/b]

There’s also something galling about being the primary earner and the primary parent while your spouse sits around and bemoans their situation without making your life any easier by taking charge of SOMETHING.

[b]My husband whines that  I am “making” him work in a job he hates.

When he was unemployed for 9 months he maybe made dinner once or twice, didn’t plan anything kid related (they stayed in aftercare and full time summer camp), and totally failed at keeping the house clean - even with cleaners it was messier than when he went to work, because he was home all day.

But if I said anything - the DRAMA.

He knew he wasn’t pulling his weight and instead of motivating him to become Mr. Mom, he did even less than he used to.[/b] [/quote]

OP, I am sorry to say it, but you have to save this marriage, because otherwise this man is going to try to take you to the cleaners in a divorce and get alimony and child support. Get into therapy and Jedi mind trick him into somehow doing better, because I doubt there is any begging, pleading, or reasonable discussion that will get a lazy person like him to come around. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics