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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you're being overly dramatic - that's provincial thinking. And it's a mindset other people avoid. They spread their wings and head out into the big, wide world.[/quote]

It's always why Americans are increasingly lonely and we've seen a collapse of the family unit. Existing as islands in the big, wide world has had disastrous effects on society.

OP, I agree with you. Will push for my kids to stay on this coast. I moved away from home and it has been hard on my parents. My DH is not from the US and he finds the entire system completely insane. [/quote]

I agree. And ppl don’t think enough about this, esp as they age. There is an epidemic of loneliness in this country. And it’s in large part bc people move away from family, even if they don’t have to.

I wish we had more family close. But our jobs -taken when we were young- are not transferable to out small midwestern area. [/quote]

I moved far away from home for school and it was the best thing I ever did. My family is extremely toxic and I couldn't get away fast enough. Never had the desire to live close to any of them.[/quote]

I think this is the answer. Kids who want to go far want to do it for a reason. Kids who are from living homes who feel supported and valued and accepted for who they are don’t feel the need to escape. [/quote]

For a lot of people, it's more about wanting the experience of living in a different place. Why would you want to stay in one location your entire life? College is the easiest time to try something else. Kids who are from loving families who feel supported and valued and and accepted know that they will always have strong bonds with their family, regardless of where they live. [/quote]

I posted earlier but have to say this is a nice sentiment. Until your not able to attend holidays, etc. easily. Until you see your family spending time together w/o you. Until your family ages and until you age.

I'm not saying don't move away to experience things. [b]But this "spread your wings" and leave home is not something that is necessarily best in the long run if you have a loving family. [/b][/quote]

You seriously just typed this??  I’m not about to argue with you but I can’t people people actually have such a limited view. [/quote]

Limited view? I moved many states away from family, though we have limited family nearby through my DH. And esp now that family is getting older, it is very, very hard to be far. We have also missed out on a lot.

And people like you are assuming we are so provincial. We've traveled all over the world, as has our kids. Our view is anything but limited. It is just different from yours and you're the one getting all bent out of shape over it. [/quote]

DP: because you are insulting families whose kids do spread their wings and go more than 2-3 hours from home.  You stated it's not the best thing if you have a loving family.  Many of us disagree with that.  My kids were not "escaping their unloving family" by attending college 2-3K miles from home.  Instead they were fully supported to choose THE BEST FITTING COLLEGE for them and purse that.  As a parent, that is the ultimate goal, to have your kid become a happy, successful adult who loves life.

I chose where I live---it's not near my parents.  My parents wanted to live on 3 acres and farm for themselves.  That is not me or my husband.    Why would I restrict my kids?!?!?  [/quote]

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