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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]LMAO- Having kids is overrated? That’s hilarious if no one had kids the entire human race would become extinct.[/quote]

I don’t know if overrated is the word but I can say that I expected there to be a much higher correlation between the work I put into parenting and the end results. Before having kids I had aced every project I was ever assigned to. Lose weight? Learn Chinese? Whatever the project I worked out a system and put my nose to the grindstone, woke up early, whatever. [b]But now that my kids are late twenties I realize the limits to how much you can influence another person with their own interests, desires etc. [/b]Looking around now it seems almost random. Lazy parents with great kids, parents who worked really hard and still weren’t able to shield their kids from problems etc. So there’s that.

I also expected to be better at parenting than I actually turned out to be. Some of that was undiagnosed and untreated anxiety that helped suck the joy out of parenting and kept me from being fun. I wish I had gotten more therapy sooner and dealt with more of my own stuff before having kids. But that biological clock kind of ensures that you start this project before you are ready or even understand the assignment.

I also thought I would have more close girlfriends and wouldn’t feel so at sea and alone as I made decisions for my family. Didn’t expect people to be so weirdly competitive and not to share information. I look back now and I am like “wow, that was hard!” Not coming from a functional family also made it much harder. [/quote]

Wow, it’s almost as if you learned something really important about human relationships. Sounds worth it to me![/quote]

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