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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a SAHM (now) but went back to work last year as DH lost his job - was unemployed for ONE YEAR. Ladies, we went from $280K to $60K and guess what, WE MADE IT WORK.  Don't get me wrong, it was tough as shit, but it was amazing how much money we "saved" by just staying the hell home and not buying stuff we just didnt really and truly need.  Now, $60K is impossible for a family of 4 to live on anywhere in the country for an extended period of time -and we did wrack up $30K in credit card debt (never, ever, ever, ever carried debt in our 15 yrs of marriage. hate it, makes me uncomfortable) but my point is that many of you could live on one paycheck if you really needed to. it's all a matter of priorities. DH is now employed again and making the same money. we are working like hell to get rid of all of our debt.

And I am a SAHM again.  [b]We have young children that need me to be home. [/b] That's more important than a big, fancy house, private school (both of which we've had/done in the past), new clothes every week/month.  [/quote]

Do your kids have special needs?[/quote]

Not the poster but why would that matter?  She feels her young kids benefit from having her home.  [/quote]

It's just a funny way to put it.  Her kids don't "need" her to be home.  If her husband's job evaporated, or she and her DH both had to work, her kids would not die.  They would be fine.  My daughter thrives at day care, that doesn't mean she "needs" to be at daycare.  If our circumstances chaned, she'd be fine at home with me, or with her grandparents or whatever.  The vast majority of children in the world thrive without having their moms staying at home with them.  [/quote]

Im the PP.  I don't think we're talking about whether or not our kids would DIE. Who said anything about our kids dying if we werent home? funny how you slid that one in. This is about whether or not you could make it work on one paycheck. My story was simply to show that it can be done.  I can assure you that you're just trying to ease your own sense of guilt for putting yourself in a situation where you're forced to work.  I have been on both sides of the argument - working full time with kids and being a SAHM.  When I was working FT, I used to think that all the SAHMs sat around with their girlfriends lunching, getting their manis/pedis and going to the gym. When I became a SAHM I understood just how wrong I was. 
Now I am going to say that IF you decide to become a SAHM, best to do it as your kids start school because that's when I found my kids really started needing me. Not just for homework but for the less obvious stuff - like conversations regarding their day. What they experienced. Who their friends are or arent. Nearly impossible to do that if you've been working all day, then drag yourself through the door to put some kind of decent meal on the table, all the while pretending to listen to your kids and DH about their days.

As for the person that commented on living in Richmond. Sorry to say that you live where the jobs are. Can't just pick up and move to Richmond because it's easier to live on $60K a year.

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