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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here wanting to add that he is not a disengaged parent - he brushes her teeth and gives her baths and gives me a break if I need one, usually.  But he has no sens of family routine and togetherness as being valuable.[/quote]

OP my DH is like this but less extreme. He at least tends to other tasks in other places so it's a somewhat productive use of the time, sometimes.

From his parents I can see how it happens. They really just don't talk at all. So this idea of sitting and making conversation together as just a family norm, no that piece is missing. He is fine at a restaurant, socializing with others, etc. But not at home and it started pre-kids and frankly back then I would just watch TV with my dinner. It's a symptom of broader problems as always. But it is depressing and I wish it were better.[/quote]

Mental disorders.

I used to think cultural differences but then all the chronic symptoms kept piling up and up. [/quote]

I don't disagree. I have plenty of armchair diagnoses.

He has some kind of anxiety around family meals where people just sit and talk. He will busy himself with chores or kids' needs when it's not necessary and other people will say "he's so helpful" but I know he also can't calmly sit and just talk anymore.

I honestly didn't know earlier. We would go out with friends a lot and he's great in that context of long meals and hanging out. It's the everyday family time as a routine/MO that is missing. Sometimes I feel like it's just his loss if he wants to be futzing with his phone in another room instead of putting the rest of us on edge and feeling uncomfortable.[/quote]

He’s the shallow type who can only talk about work or sit and listen to talkative people whilst never actually contributing to a back and forth conversation.

He will actively avoid personal conversations or answering those questions, and will dodge providing an opinion. He doesn’t have opinions or take views; he’s too confused about life. [/quote]

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