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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Team DH. Let the poor man sleep. Surely you can figure this out and not resent him. You sound controlling. [/quote]

Ah, yes, "You sound controlling."

OP sounds like she would like her husband to step up on the parenting. That doesn't seem to be his style, however, so she can either push it ("I know you want a nap this afternoon, so I'll take the kids then, but I'm going to be at the spa/having a leisurely breakfast alone/going to yoga from 8-10, so you're up then.")

Everything else you figure out jointly, with the understanding that neither taking advantage of all the location has to offer nor chilling and doing whatever's easiest is somehow the morally superior choice. Take a vacation from invisible labor. [/quote]

Everyone is telling her to take her own break if she wants it. It doesn't sound like that's what she wants. But also, these aren't little kids. They don't need constant parenting. That's a choice. [/quote]

Yeah, but they're at the age where you can actually set up fun "adventures" for them—not just dumping them at the kids club. Like, taking them to go see the local mayan ruins, go out on a charter sail boat, etc... and she has the choice of carrying it all herself, giving the kids a memory with everyone but dad, or everyone just sitting around twiddling their thumbs while dad takes an unnecessary nap. [/quote]

You can charter a sailboat *and* take a nap. Are people really out every day in the sun and the middle of the day? No wonder why my dermatologist gives me a million warnings. [/quote]

Totally, you CAN schedule your nap around activities, and everyone is happy. But it sounds like dad is not interested in doing that and is being very inflexible about his "nap."[/quote]

I have heard nothing from OP to suggest what you say is true. You are just imaging scenarios. She’s just mad about the lack of constant togetherness.[/quote]

Well, in her original post she wrote:

[b]Whenever we go on vacation, he expects and anticipates napping mid-day,[/b]

in her second followup post she wrote:

[b]This is a two-hour nap every day or he’s crabby like a toddler.[/b]

In her third post, she wrote:

[b]OP again: Somehow he can get through a work day, a round of golf and drinks at the club, etc etc, without this nap.[/b]

Which suggests that not only is he inflexible, but it's a matter of choice.

The alternative to him being selfishly inflexible is something like apnea. Either way, he should deal with it.

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Gosh I am super duper Team OP on this one. My only issue is she’s doing the opposite of taking a stand and dealing directly with the issue. What if this was a workplace issue? Think about it that way, less emotions.

This guy is surfing po&n and/or other things OP doesn’t want to think about during baby nap time. Complete BS he “must nap” based on the simple facts she presented. Duh.

Sounds like much bigger issues and OP senses it but doesn’t know what to do, hence coming here. I’m worried! [/quote]

Yeah, it seems unlikely that the ONLY time he's completely inflexible, unreasonable and unbending is when he needs his vacation nap. I suspect he's not a good dad most of the rest of the time and she hopes that a FAMILY vacation would be the time for him to step up... and he doesn't.[/quote]

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