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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I stand by the OP and I have a sibling across the country who flies out once a year if that.  However he’s my support system, always answers when I call, lets me vent, works through tough decisions with me and he handles other aspects that I find truly helpful.

If he was local and he dropped the rope like the unhelpful sibling I’d be done.  When you’re in the throes of caregiving and trying to juggle cats to keep your loved one in their own environment as long as possible it is the most stressful time.  Lots of decisions and guilt and emotions.  I’d probably try to have a conversation with worthless sibling that lays everything out.  Give them a choice- are they in or are they out.

I truly don’t understand the venom on this forum sometimes.  It seems like people argue and put down others just to argue.  [/quote]

The problem is, OP and her "helpful" sibling aren't just "juggling cats."   They chose to add some running chainsaws and jugs of water in addition to the cats.   Then they blame the "unhelpful sibling" for not wanting to jump in and juggle with them.[/quote]

Such as?

You mean driving the old lady to medical appointments since she can no longer drive herself?

And dropping off her groceries and prescriptions because she can’t drive? Sure, you can get those things delivered, but ICYMI it’s important to periodically check on elderly people who live alone. A weekly or biweekly visit lets you eyeball the situation. Is she eating? Is she taking her meds? Is the house tidy? How does she seem?

And visiting your mom is a decent thing to do.

You fixated on driving her to get a haircut. It’s a weird place to draw a line in the sand. Do you cut your own hair or something? Older women tend to have short hair that require trims every month or so. It’s a quick thing. [/quote]

There is more than one poster responding to you, I didn't "fixate" on anything or ever mention haircuts.

"Such as" realizing that what she really needs is to be in a residential facility if you want this full time coverage or actually PAY for a full time aid.    Many posters have already told you this.[/quote]

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