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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As angry as you are (and have a right to be), focus on what is best for your kids and take the high road towards the guy and tell him (and Ex) that everyone being cordial adults and a unified parenting front is the best thing for the kids.  Request that he really make an effort to be kind and understanding with them, since their world is upended.  In the end, the only person whom you can control in this situation is yourself, so be the best version of yourself in the moment and go rant full throttle to close friends when alone.  You need to be the rock for your kids.  And that karma will come back to you.    [/quote]

Handle it with class. The kids will grow up and figure out the situation and come to their own conclusions about what happened. You’re living in the moment now with the cards you’ve been dealt. They will have their own thoughts about their mother one day. [/quote]

We are all supportive of the op but,honestly we don't know the reasons for the divorce and why she cheated.  It maybe that she is the total villian but, it maybe more nuanced than that.  You can be a good mother and still have an affair and divorce the dad.  Isn't that what we would say if it was the father? Everyone would say "don't take away the father from the kids!"

I don't know the situation obviously but, let's not assume Op's ex-wife is the total baddy[/quote]

No, that's a safe assumption. OP's wife is a cheating whore. That makes her a bad person. Full stop.[/quote]

I have said this before. When women have an affair OMG so many justifications to the point of acceptance. Men admit their affair. Women don't deny them but they will spend the next several weeks explaining to you that they "deserved" to have an affair because YOU (lousy husband) had a million changes to take care of HER NEEDS and failed. Now let's go to therapy so you can understand how unhappy I am and YOU need to take me back.[/quote]

I don't think men admit their affairs. Affair is a gender neutral issue. Women are emotional creature. Their emotions can make them do really bad decisions such as having an affair. We men cannot relate to that. Women are intense lover
 We are not. A man will not cheat because his wife is not showing him enough love or failing to compliment him enough. The man cheat because he can't control his impulses and often it means nothing to him. He is just seeking to fulfill a quick need. Women are different. For this reason if you are a man and are not committed 100% to loving your wife and doing all the love stuff do not get married or else she will replace you.[/quote]

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