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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We’ve opted out of basically all of it. The kids do 0-1 casual sports per year, they’re in charge of all school stuff themselves - school is between them and their teacher.

After school the kids putter around, watch tv, play in the neighborhood with other kids. We’re fairly strict about “small screens”. Tv is ok, maybe an hour a day, but they don’t use iPads or phones.

I have a theory that I’m willing to test out on my kids: in the long run, what’s going to count for their happiness and ability to thrive is their attention span, ability to take charge of themselves, to be bored and then figure stuff out and to sort out their own relationships with friends and family.

I feel that they need a lot of free time to learn those things, so we mostly don’t schedule them. The kids are still in ES so I’m sure things will ramp up later, but for now, opting out makes for a pleasant life for all of us.[/quote]

We follow the same style of parenting! Mine are in middle school now and I can say it’s still working for us. It’s all what they grown up doing and know. We were also willing to test this out on our kids and it’s really no different than how we were raised so I guess we’ll see how they turn out! :) [/quote]

If your kids do this in middle school, just puttering around, they won’t make the high school team for any competitive sports.

There have been many threads on travel sports culture. Some people are fine with just doing rec sports. The whole travel baseball, soccer, basketball, swim, tennis and everything else is definitely a culture.

You will often find that the smart, good looking, rich and athletic kids have parents who are the same. They don’t just wake up puttering around and make the varsity tennis team.[/quote]

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