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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Lot of bootstrappers in this thread who have no idea how much help and privilege is required for achieving success. [/quote]

First gen bootstrapper here. My parents, aside from paying for college, were 100% hands off wrt school, all through grad school (they didn’t pay for that, I did). So you can try to throw bootstrapper out there like it’s an insult, but it’s not. If these kids need that much help to be successful, it’s not their success. At least admit that much. [/quote]
DP. Lucky you that you never had executive function issues or mental health problems. Some kids have these issues and need a little help. Their brains are not fully developed till age 25, so I’m gonna help them as much as I can. [/quote]

I love that you assume I have no mental health issues to justify your hovering/meddling/snowplowing. Not surprising.

I have anxiety (medicated) as does my senior daughter (medicated as well). Her executive functioning usually sucks but she has no formal diagnosis. Yet she somehow managed to pull her sh¡t together and get accepted to her top choice college. With very little help from us (we drove her to look at schools but that was about it).

[b]I am SO TIRED of people using diagnoses to justify coddling their kids. [/b]

If your kids need constant help from you, they’re not as amazing as you make them out to be. [/quote]

And it doesn't even help them! It keeps them from developing the skills they actually need to succeed and hurts them. This might as well be a thread entitled "I beat my kid."[/quote]

Yes to all this!

It is creating a debilitating problem for them. In the end, I'm ok that other people do this - more opportunities for my kid in the workplace.  It bothers me when one of these kids makes it through our hiring process and end up on my team - then I spend a year trying to get them moved and get someone who can actually do the job in a timely manner.  I have a deaf person on my team - he's awesome and good at his job; he delivers (and checks his email) and I make accommodations for him.  I'm epileptic. I have team members with diabetes, obesity, and other 'disabilities' that all perform well.  I don't need an oversized baby whose parents have to do their job to stay on top of everything. I'd actually rather hire the parent![/quote]

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