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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly, all of this is made easier if mom stays home with the children and dad makes more money to compensate. I know it’s an unpopular sentiment, but most women would feel much less resentment if they dropped work to focus their efforts (when the children are young) on raising them and let their DH work harder to cover the bills.[/quote]

The problem with this is once upon a time when women stayed home, they viewed their role as "homemaker" and that job description included everything: Care for children, keep the house clean and orderly, fix the meals.

Today's young women define this role as "SAHM" with the emphasis on the "M." They think their duty is only to look after the children during the hours that their husband is working or commuting but that he should immediately step in for 50% on all of the other tasks. They bristle at the "homemaker" label -- basically they are invested in intensive mothering; so, basically, they want to be a nanny or governess to their own children. The rest of the duties that used to be embedded in the role are beneath them and either need to be outsourced or shared equally.[/quote]
I disagree, IME women who quit full-time work to focus on their children tend to be fine cleaning and grocery shopping as well. Women accustomed to work in a career generally have some drive towards productivity and do well at home. The mental labor resentment is largely driven by women who are required to provide financially for their families PLUS do the work of a SAHM. IME women who quit their careers to focus on parenting are not lazy, especially when their DHs step up and make more money.[/quote]

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