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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Unpopular opinion, but this worked with my similar child (down to the several hositalizations)

Try low-demand parenting.

Let her have the internet (it may soothe her esp since she is neurodivergent). Back off your demands to the bare minimum -- school, hygiene, food.

Read The Explosive Child and join Plan B Facebook group.

Follow Casey @atpeaceparents on Instagram.

Your child needs a reset for their central nervous system.

This is a marathon and it is much harder for us than for other parents. Find supportive parents who get it and don't give you dumb advice like using sticker charts.

My kid is way beyond the explosive stage now and doing OK in a MCPS high school. Is he going to be valedictorian? No, but he's not suicidal, self-harming, violent, aggressive or on drugs.

We have no limits on screens. He does use them a lot, esp. music to self-soothe. But he also goes out now and socializes.

He was once on many psych drugs for ADHD and mood disorders and now is on no drugs at all.[/quote]

Agreeing with this poster and also writing to give some home. We were in a similar boat a few years ago with an aggressive and extremely dysregulated 13 year old. Parenting techniques recommended by traditional therapists - taking away internet, incentives and consequences - made things much worse. We were strongly considering residential. After removing all demands, hewing to a Ross Greene approach, we began to understand that our child was in autistic burnout. Two years later, after finding different and supportive therapists, our child is so so much better. They are now doing things they could not do before - showering, school, vacations, chores. If traditional approaches aren’t working, think about this. It is so counterintuitive and scary and hard, but there are people who can support you. [/quote]

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