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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some people who I’m sure are good people and good parents and have all good intentions still have more kids than they should/can really handle. Unless you have a really amazing community that’ll help you raise your kids (grandparents, aunts, uncles, close friends, who live near by and will actually be really involved) AND you have a lot of $$ to outsource things like cooking, cleaning and can still save for college and fund all other kid expenses,  I just do not see how it is practical to have more than 2 kids. Vast majority of ppl do not have that kind of community support and don’t have that kind of $. [/quote]

The world is also just more complex than it used to be when larger families were common. One thing I think about as a parent is a need to be a guide and to help my kids learn to navigate stuff that didn't even exist when I was a child. I think sometimes people who have big families have this Mayberry vision in their heads of a pile of kids playing outdoors and going camping and making their own fun. Sure, all of that can happen. But every one of those kids is ALSO going to have to navigate modern technology, social media, a world where everything (money, jobs, community, politics) is more complex and layered than it was back when huge families were much more common. I know there is this hope that by creating this wholesome, big family experience in childhood, kids will have the skills and resilience to figure that stuff out. But is that true? I don't think it works for everyone. Many kids need more explicit guidance than that.[/quote]

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