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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I’m not looking for a meal ticket.

Age: I’m 29 and he’s 30.

Salary: I make base of $180k but can go up to $230k if I work OT. He makes $80k and his salary will not increase.

Outlook: I’m not sure if I would ever stay home but I want the option to take a couple of years off to raise my kids while they’re young.

I grew up in a large family where we didn’t have a lot of extra money. My dad was the sole provider while my mom took care of us. We couldn’t partake in after programs or extra curricular activities because we didn’t have the expendable income to cover it. I had to work 60 hour weeks and delay college so that I could save up and not take out so many student loans. I didn’t finish my degrees until 23 and 27 because of it.

I want to provide my kids with the opportunities I didn’t have. I want them to be able to partake in any activities they want, go on a family vacation, and pay for their college.

I’ve only ever dated men that have matched my salary or made more. It’s a new territory for me. [/quote]

This problem will work itself out. You're only six years away from a geriatric pregnancy.  It doesn't seem likely that you'll find someone that checks all of your boxes before then. [/quote]

yep - op posts like she's 21-25[/quote]

She should think about why she's single at nearly 30.[/quote]

GMAFB. 30 is young.[/quote]

Not if she wants kids. She's only got 6 years left.[/quote]

Um, what?  I hadn’t even met my dh at 36.  Got married at 38, had two kids at 41 and 44.  I won’t say it was easy, but op has more than six years left to have children.  [/quote]

You’re lucky it worked out. It’s not super common for women to get married to a decent guy in their late thirties and go on to have children in their forties. It’s amazing that it worked out for you, but it’s more of an exception to the rule.

OP is at an age where if she wants kids, she needs to be getting serious about having the right infrastructure in place to do that. [/quote]

OP here. I’m 29 and I froze my eggs last year. I think I should be fine on the baby thing. [/quote]

So in addition to wanting to be a stay at home for 5 years, you also will probably need to fund IVF. Cut the guy loose and go on your gold digging way. Gross[/quote]

OP here. I’m not a gold digger. Wanting a guy that makes $100-150k is not a gold digger.

Freezing my eggs was a way for more to make sure I had more time and if I’m unable to conceive naturally. It doesn’t mean I will 100% need to use IVF. I have plenty of savings to fund it if I need it. [/quote]

He's 20K from that marker. I make more than that on 1 AirBNB property we own. Seriously, you are very myopic. [/quote]

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