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I hear you. I’m not seeing new junk taking up space.

However, hoarder pulls papers and books out of drawers and off shelves and spreads them all over the floor. Maybe that is their way of making the space more hoarded. They didn’t even bother cleaning that up before we had people come in.

It’s crazy we will miss out on $150,000 or so for the home’s sale price because we no longer have the time to spruce up the house due to the hoarder.

This thread is making me brave.

And thank you, PP, I tried to tread carefully and hoarder has already yelled at me. Sadly, I also yelled back, which I do not want to do.

They said I would not “let them” move because I asked them not to move on one certain day last year. There were another 300 days or so that were fine…

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OP, I'm trying to understand the situation here. You parents house is the home in question and it is full of stuff, but NOT hoarded, correct?

It is your sibling who is the hoarder? And the issue is just that the sibling is having a hard time letting go of your parents' possessions in your parents' house?

The sibling isn't bringing THEIR stuff into your parents' home, they are just not agreeing to quick removal of your parents' items? The hoarder sibling is going through each room slowly, dragging stuff out and making messes, but is not going to be able to process through everything. They are going to try to take everything out little by little and add to their current hoard in two+ more houses?

So what do you mean by the last comment - you told your sibling not to move on one day?  What do you mean, to move? Who is moving? Why would your sibling need your permission to move?

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I can see how what I said was confusing.

Sibling wants to move furniture to one of their houses.

They say I prevented them from moving it because the one day they chose didn’t work for my schedule. They gave me a weeks heads up and I was going to be out of town.

I wanted to be present. There have been lots of other days the move could have been done so saying I prevented them from moving at all is not correct.

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I gotta say, that’s not the move I would have made. Say yes, let them have a chance, then set the date. Or set the date for the clean out and let them have full access until then. Put up cameras in case of criminal activity. The end. [/quote]

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