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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don’t do it. It’s not good for your kids. Give attention and time (which will already be in short supply w 2 kids and parents w 2 demanding careers) to the family you already have.

-grew up in a big family w 2 working parents (including a mom who is a physician) and while I love my siblings, I wish my parents had been able to give us more time and attention that they just couldn’t bc they both worked and had too many kids and never enough time. I became a sahm myself and we had 2 kids precisely bc I wished my own mom had spent more time w me as a kid. [/quote]

+1. CAN you do it? With a good nanny, sure. But consider how much time you'd actually be spending with your children versus the nanny, and think about whether that's a trade off you want to make. The post-pregnancy hormones can be strong for some of us, but that doesn't mean they should be acted on. My guess is that you're still in the very early years of parenting. IMO, the older they get the more important it is that YOU are the one spending time with them. It's not just running them to soccer, it's the conversations that happen in the car on the way to soccer. I know I couldn't personally do that to my own standards with three kids and a demanding career. [/quote]

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